Every time I write a post I am unsatisfied with it. I always feel as if I haven’t managed to get to the nub of the issue and it niggles me.
With regard to my previous post about shame I was thinking about the relationship between the Id, the Ego and the Superego. I was thinking about how shame may well be about the Superego’s attitude of disgust to the Id (as in Civilization being disgusted with Nature – in this regard, Superego has a bloomin’ cheek since it is the artifice, the fake) and about how the Ego, being piggy-in-the-middle and feeling like it might be ripped in two, might plump for siding with the Superego, thereby abandoning the Id. So, the Ego, terrorized by the Superego and fearing being tarred with the same brush, joins in with subjugating the Id, the source of its shame.
I was thinking about the wording of another blog post on the matter when I discovered a cool blog in which tons of stuff resonates with me.
Here are some posts, and quotes, about the very issue:
‘With shame, a person often feels that he or she is a phony, fake, or imposter. Sometimes the person feels like a complete loser or utter failure as a human being.’
‘In essence, shame is produced through our surrender to the bullying of our inner critic.’
‘When we are failing to check the power of the inner critic, we absorb its aggression, criticism, and negativity.’
‘Our inner passivity allows the inner critic to get away with its abuse of us.’
In this post the writer refers to the Superego as a ‘rogue operator’ that ‘can’t be trusted’.
I love it! I don’t need to think these things through anymore, because this dude’s saying what I want to say!